All or Nothing:
By: Jordan Robles
It’s easy to get caught up in the New Year hustle: “I’m going to be in the gym every day, eat strict paleo, add in extra cardio, lift more, lose weight…” And while there’s nothing wrong with having goals in mind, it’s important to give yourself the room to be realistic. Maybe you get sick and miss a workout or you fall short of your Whole 30 goals. We need to remember that missteps are not failures. We are all human and we’ve all felt what it’s like to come up short. With an “all or nothing” attitude, it’s easy to have a misstep and throw in the towel. “I binged this week, so I’ll just start again Monday.” “I didn’t make it to the gym today, I’ll take the rest of the week off.” When we come in to the New Year with these attitudes and often times unrealistic expectations, it sets us up to be unsuccessful. “I’m either going to do everything perfectly or nothing at all.” You can and maybe have applied this to realms of your life outside of the gym: work, school, relationships, etc. I know that I have, which is why in 2018, I’m focusing on changing my “all of nothing” attitude to a more balanced approached that’s realistic for my life. I plan on doing this by:
1. Creating realistic goals:
I will choose goals that have an appropriate timeline, fit well with my school schedule and are things I can do consistently. I’ve made the mistake in the past of giving myself deadlines that are not realistic. Anytime these goals have not been reached it feels like a failure. By creating a practical timeline, accomplishing my goals will be achievable. While I have specific health and fitness goals, the reality is that school comes first. These fitness goals need to coincide with my academic goals as well. Finally, my goals will be things I can keep up with and be consistent about. Being healthy is for the long haul. And while it may be appealing to think we can reach a healthy state and be done, it doesn’t work that way. Longevity in regards to health is the goal. This is about a lifetime of fitness, not one week, month or year. Stay consistent over time!
2. Re-setting, not restarting:
“Failure is falling down, and refusing to get back up.” In the quest to better ourselves and accomplish our achievements, we tend to not leave room for mistakes. It’s important to know that we’ll rarely be absolutely flawless in our game plan. When we do make a mistake, we have a choice. We can allow it to throw us off. Or, we can choose to acknowledge our mistake, learn from it and get back on track. The latter inspires growth, self-learning and encourages us to keep working towards our goals.
3. Being kind to myself:
As I’ve mentioned throughout this post, it is inevitable that there will come a time where we miss a day at the gym, overeat, don’t hit the numbers we want to hit or make a mistake. During these times of what may feel like defeat, remember to be kind to yourself. Yes, you’ve made an error. But that error does not define you, your journey or your work ethic. Beating yourself up will only make it harder to get back up and continue on your goal path. Love yourself through the journey. Remind yourself that you’ve made a choice to become a better you and that in itself is an accomplishment. Work on positive self-talk, self-care and acknowledge that YOUR best is enough.
So, let’s steer clear of these “all or nothing” attitudes in 2018!